It’s not good enough to simply register with a foreign bride marriage agency, scan bunches of beautiful women’s photos and profiles, then crank out masses of emails to the women you prefer. You will get results, but your results will be mediocre at best.
The bottom line is that to find and marry a foreign woman through use of a marriage agency, you’re going to end up spending both time and money. That’s o.k., these are investments in your future. But to maximize the return on your investments, to make sure you get the best results for your own well-being as well as the well-being of your future bride, do this - -
Follow a strategy structured as a series of specific steps to achieve your goal. Following is our recommended strategy. This strategy is closely aligned with the process posted under FAQ on the A Foreign Affair web-site.
Check on the A Foreign Affair site for their very detailed guide of how to proceed. Click the banner below:
There are several HUGE benefits of the strategy outlined below. After the strategy description, benefits gained by using it are described.
The first thing that’s important to point out is that only very few agencies even CLAIM to have the capabilities available for you to use this strategy with. The bottom line is that if you’re going to use a marriage agency to help you find your foreign “dream girl”, you want to use one that has the experience, credibility, resources, connections, and capabilities to give you the best chance of success. Only one agency has these attributes to provide your best chance for success. That agency is A Foreign Affair (AKA LoveMe.com)
Our recommended strategy for using a marriage agency is the 12 step process as follows:
1. Search Many Women’s Profiles In Several Cities.
Use the agency search engine to browse through many women’s profiles. Take your time. Just search around through different cities and different countries. A good way to do this is to note where the agency conducts operations and search through those cities.
8-10-11 UPDATE:
The easiest way to do this is to go to to A Foreign Affair’s home page. Then click on the link at the top of the page that says “tours“. There you will find a list of the cities where A Foreign Affair conducts their highly acclaimed “romance tours.” Those cities will align closely with the “regions” on the search page. On the “tours” page, You’ll also find an extensive list of their tour features including both BEFORE tour and AFTER tour support.
Click the small banner for A Foreign Affair’s home page:
2. Note Cities Where Women That Interest You Live.
As you browse, take note of the cities where women that interest you the most live. Don’t start adding women to your “hot list” yet. That process comes later.
3. Narrow your search to a specific city.
Don’t be tempted to start relationships with a woman in Moscow, and one in St. Petersburg, and one in Kiev all at the same time. This will drive you crazy, and be very hazardous to your bankroll. Focus on one city.
Once you’ve zeroed in on a city, arrange with the marriage agency to join a tour to that city.
Don’t worry about not knowing any women in that city. After you’ve executed all the strategy steps you’ll be very well connected with several women there.
After signing up for the tour, be sure to update your profile on the marriage agency web-site with your destination city and dates. THIS IS CRITICAL! You’ll understand why in item 5.1 of the strategy benefits writeup later on.
4. Browse Lots And Lots Of Women’s Profiles In Your Chosen City.
Here you’re ready for some serious browsing and selection. This is where you select women for your “hot list.” Your browsing in step 2 has already shown you at least 1 woman that interests you in that city. Having narrowed your search to only that city, you should be able to find many more. Be realistic. If you can’t find at least a couple dozen women in a major city that interest you, then you are one picky dude. And remember that on the tour, you’ll have the opportunity to meet many more women.
5. Analyze Profiles To Narrow Search.
Assuming you’ve got 2 or 3 dozen women on your chosen city “hot list”, do a close scrutiny of each woman’s profile. Sure, photos, age, height, and weight are obvious things to check. But so are education, presence of or preference for children, education, and other things. Study her personal comments too. Do they “ring true” or canned. The object of this process is to narrow your search from 2 or 3 dozen women down to 8 to 10 women.
6. Now Start communication.
Start communication with these 8 to 10 women to test the waters for mutual interest. In your communications you should be personable, but above all, be honest. You needn’t be modest, but being a braggart will fail. Also, don’t fall in love by email. That’s hazardous to your emotional well-being. Keep your wits about you. Don’t make promises (other than the fact that you will soon be in her city to meet her), and again, be honest.
And definitely in your communications, explore issues that are of primary importance to each of you. Hopefully you know what yours are. Your job is to find out what hers are and determine whether you can live together happily given that her important issues may be different than yours.
7. Narrow Your List From 8 to 10 Down To 2 Or 3.
Where mutual interest is lacking after correspondence or phone chats, then narrow the list. If a woman has been unresponsive to your emails, or worse, evasive in her responses, drop her from your list. Your object in this step is to get your list of prospective women to 2 or 3 women at the most and then - -
8. Get Your Women Invited To Tour Socials.
Since you’ve already arranged with the marriage agency for a tour to that city make certain the women you’re interested in know of your plans AND you must be sure to request the agency to invite your chosen women to the socials conducted by the tour. And get confirmations from the women that they’ve been invited and will be there.
9. Go On The Tour (And Get Insurance)
What’s the insurance thing all about? It’s a backup strategy. Just in case the women you’ve invited to the tour socials don’t show up for whatever reason, your first stop on the tour should be to the tour host’s hospitality suite. There you’ll be able to review profiles of ALL the women who have been invited to the socials. Take your time and study the profiles. Select several different women that you would like personal introductions to at the socials. Yes you’ve committed to meet 2 or 3 women already. If they are there to meet you, great. But if not, you’ve got options and the choice is yours. You can meet all of them, or just some of them. Let your tour hosts know what you’re doing so they can help you.
(And by the way, if something happens in your life that prevents you from attending the tour, be sure to inform the women you’ve invited to the socials that you can’t meet them. It’s common courtesy, yes?, just as you would hope for them to inform you.)
10. At The Socials, Meet Your Women.
Now meet personally with the women you’ve corresponded with and/or selected at the hospitality suite.
There’s nothing like personal chemistry to “seal the deal”. And also, you’ll be able to learn how your chosen women handle themselves in a social setting.
10. The Hard Part - Make Choices.
Now you have to make choices. And the women too will make theirs. Where mutual interest still exists for you and ONE woman at a time, arrange for a follow up date. Ask your chosen woman to show you “her” city. Don’t make it a wide open request. Be in charge. Know something about the city and tell her you’d like to visit such and such places and do such and such things. You’ll find out all kinds of things about her and about yourself being with her. You’ll learn about mutual interests, likes, dislikes, fun stuff, and not so fun stuff, etc.. Just that simple request “show me your city” can be such a revelation - - for you both.
Perhaps, since you’ll be on a multi-day tour possibly attending multiple socials and visiting multiple cities, you may end up with having multiple women show you their city. That’s o.k., just be “clean” about it, meaning honest and upfront. But maintain your focus and ultimately MAKE A DECISION.
11. From Flowers And Chocolates To Knees And Rings.
From here, you’re on your own. Having made a decision, you’re no longer in dating 101. You’re in courtship mode. CONGRATULATIONS.
And if things don’t pan out with this woman, it’s not the end of the world. You can either re-connect with one of the other women you’ve met, or go back to step #1. Perseverance is the key. If you want to meet and marry your foreign “dream girl” YOU CAN.
GOOD LUCK AND HAVE FUN.
BENEFITS OF THIS STRATEGY
We’re going through a substantial amount of extra effort here to document the advantages of this marriage agency strategy. For some men the advantages of what’s been laid out will be obvious. But for other men there are parts of the strategy that they balk at, not understanding the benefits involved. Whichever type of man you are, read on. There are some advantages described here that will surprise you.
As stated at the beginning of this strategy, there are MAJOR benefits to using this strategy. Following are the specific benefits with descriptions of why certain points of the strategy are beneficial:
1. Optimize Marriage Agency Resources And Capabilities.
By using this strategy, you will optimize your usage of the marriage agency resources and capabilities to YOUR maximum advantage. After all, you’re paying for addresses and other services. So get the most for your money. The agency has lots of capabilities to help you find your “dream girl”. Use them to the hilt. It’s to your benefit and the agency’s. Your success is their success and they will support you.
2. This Marriage Agency Strategy Puts YOU In Control.
You will not have to sit around fretting about getting your emails answered and trying to second guess intentions one woman at a time.
Essentially what we’re doing here is playing a numbers strategy. If you deal with one woman at a time, you are at risk of getting emotionally involved too early on and your judgement will be clouded. Deal with several women at a time initially to stay objective. This way - -
If you don’t get timely and appropriate responses from a woman, it’s simple. Drop that woman from your list and devote more time to those remaining on your list. Remember - - it’s not about falling in love online. It’s about introductions and exploring common ground and the big issues like children/no children, drinking/no drinking, religion/no religion, etc..
3. This Strategy Will Save You Lots Of Money And Headaches.
If you try to “go it alone”, it’s likely that you’ll have to make as many as 4 and probably more trips to foreign countries just to get engaged for marriage. Airfare, hotels, and other expenses will set you back at least $8,000 to $10,000.
Plus you’ll have to make all those arrangements yourself including the arrangements for connecting with your chosen woman.
But if you join a tour, the marriage agency makes all the arrangements for travel, accommodations and social connections. They provide the arrangements, the guides, the translators, the setting, and social hosts for you to have a successful trip.
4. You’ll Be Well Connected When You Arrive In A Foreign City.
Using this marriage agency strategy will provide for you to arrive in a foreign city well connected to several women of your choosing on the day you arrive. This way, when you attend the tour socials, you don’t have to play “helter-skelter” trying to connect with women. You can go directly to each of your chosen women and extend your relationship with them.
Certainly there is proper decorum to be observed in how you do this; and the best thing to do is to consult with your tour and social hosts to let them know your circumstances so they can help you achieve your goals while avoiding awkward situations and “ruffled feathers.” A Foreign Affair coordinators and hosts are masters at this and can help you create a very happy ending for all concerned.
5. Beat The Competition In At Least Two Ways.
5.1. The more desirable a woman is as judged by her photos and profile, the more men there are that will be interested in her. So if you select a VERY desirable woman, whether it be by her looks, education, profession, etc., you can be certain that lots of other men will also have selected her and will be writing to her. But if you’ve scheduled a marriage agency tour to her city, she’ll be more responsive to your communications than theirs because of her actually being able to meet you in person. To the women, your joining a tour indicates that you are serious. It also represents commitment. Women crave commitment and respond to it.
5.2. Most men will not go on the marriage agency tours to meet women. They try to accomplish their goal strictly by communication from afar until they feel they’ve got a “sure thing.” Their plan is to take a solo trip to meet that one woman once they feel certain of her. In the meantime, that one woman may be communicating with several other men. But it’s the man who meets with her in person that is most likely to win her over. Being on the marriage agency tour and meeting personally with women let’s you jump to the head of the line.
6. You’ll Increase Your Overall Chances Of Success.
Statistically, only 5% of the men who try to “go it alone” are successful in finding and marrying their “dream girl” through email alone. They end up making multiple foreign trips to meet with women whom they thought were perfect only to be disappointed when the actual physical meeting took place. This gets to be hyper expensive in addition to being frustrating and even heart-breaking.
In contrast, also speaking statistically, your chances of successfully “hooking up” with your “dream girl” are greater than 60% by using a solid strategy and participating in a marriage agency tour.
7. See In Person, In An Objective Setting, Who You’ve Been Communicating With.
Have you been communicating online with “Barbie the Beautiful” or “Wanda the Wicked?” Here’s a true story. A close friend was exchanging emails and phone calls with a foreign woman for several months. He knew she was “the one.” He made trip arrangements and hotel reservations to meet and be with her. When he arrived at her airport, instead of her meeting him at the customs exit, he heard his name paged. Answering the page he learned that he was to meet his lady in the lounge. He thought that strange because his lady did not drink. In fact, smoking and drinking were on his taboo list. But he went to the lounge to meet her. And there he first laid eyes on the non-drinking, non-smoking woman whose photos always portrayed her as an immaculately dressed, perfectly made up ravishing beauty. What a shock. She was dressed in very “scruffy” clothes, had unkempt hair and was drinking a martini while smoking a cigarette. It was noon. He left immediately and made arrangements to return home, sadder but wiser. The whole experience cost a couple thousand dollars and a ton of emotional grief.
Avoid this scenario. Sure, communicate online but make no promises to her or yourself until you’ve met personally in an environment where YOU have options in case you find she’s not who she represented herself to be.
8. Meet Women Who Don’t Have Online Profiles.
Many women choose, for their own personal or professional reasons, to not have their profiles displayed online. Yet they still register with and are validated by the marriage agency. And when socials are scheduled in these women’s cities, they are extended invitations by the marriage agency to attend the socials. A tip here - - this is often “the cream of the crop.” So if you’re dazzled by the beauties you see online, attend a marriage agency social and meet “the real deal.” To meet one of these women it’s simple - - just ask your tour hosts for a personal introduction.
9. Satisfy Visa Requirements.
As long as you document your meeting, your marriage agency tour (*) satisfies the U.S, Embassy fiancee visa requirement of your having to travel to the woman’s country to meet her. THAT’S THE LAW. Just take photos of the two of you together (preferably with recognizable backgrounds.) Copies of emails between you are advised as well, and keep all of your reciepts and airline tickets. All of this stuff will be requested for your K-1 visa application.
(*) A word to the wise here. This can in fact backfire on you if you go on a tour with an agency that is not IMBRA compliant. So to make double certain you are protected when it comes time for a fiancee visa, pick the right agency. A Foreign Affair’s tours provide you with this protection.
10. Qualify For Early Bird Discounts.
By signing up with a marriage agency for a tour as soon as you identify the city you want to focus on, you can quite often receive substantial discounts on the tour cost. This depends on the actual tour dates, but often there are multiple tours scheduled for each city. This way, if discounts are your thing, you can select the tour whose dates allow you to receive the discount. A tip here - - keep in mind that if you book too far into the future, some women may no longer be available by the time you get there.
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